《喜福会》英文论文

The Joy Luck Club:

Collision and Compatibility Between Chinese

and American Culture

Abstract

The Joy Luck Club, a masterpiece of Amy Tan,was one of the best-sellers in America in 1989;it is Amy Tan's first full-length novel.Amy Tan,American born Chinese,was born in Oakland,USA in 1952.The Joy Luck Club is about misunderstanding, collision and comprehension between the four groups of immigrant mothers and their American daughters.Under the influence of the daughters’defiance,the mothers realise chinese cultural marginalization in American cultural environment and confront the chinese cultural identity.At the same time,faced with the mothers’intervention, the daughters see the defect and shortage in American culture and accept the chinese culture heritage.The relationship between the mothers and the daughters reflects the collision and compatibility between Chinese and American culture and proclaims the possibility and inevitability in the development of compatibility between Chinese and American culture.

Key words: The Joy Luck Club ,mother-daughter collision , mother-daughter compatibility, collision between Chinese and American culture, compatibility between Chinese

and American culthre.

《喜福会》中的中美文化的碰撞与融合

摘要：《喜福会》是谭恩美的一部杰作，它是她的第一部真正意义上的小说，是美国在1989年畅销书之一。关于谭恩美，她是一个美籍华裔作家，1952年她出生在美国的奥克兰。谭恩美的小说《喜福会》描写了四位中国母亲和她们的美国女儿从误解，冲突到理解的故事。最终母亲在女儿的反叛中看到了中国文化在美国文化环境中的边缘性并勇敢面对自己的中国文化身份；而女儿也在母亲的干预中看到了美国文化的缺陷和不足，进而接受了自己的中国文化血统。小说通过母女关系表现了中美两种文化之间的碰撞和融合，也揭示了中美文化融合的可能性和必然性。

关键词：喜福会，母女碰撞，母女融合，中美文化碰撞，中美文化融合.

Acknowledgements

On the completion of this paper, I would like to extend my deep appreciation to my supervisor Mr. Liu This paper is accomplished under his inspiration and enlightenment. I am greatly indebted to him for his valuable suggestion, incisive comments, insightful feedback and his generosity in spending his precious time revising the drafts of this paper. Without his great help and tireless guidance, this paper would never have been completed.

I also wish to express my thanks to my friends, Guo changrong ,Zheng tianwu,Wu qiulin,Zhan dinghong,who encouraged and helped me a lot in the process of my work on this thesis.

Finally, a deep sense of gratitude goes to my beloved parents, who always give me support and constant inspiration.

Abstract (1)

《喜福会》中的中美文化的碰撞与融合 (1)

Acknowledgements (2)

Chapter 1 Introduction (4)

1.1Brief introduction about Amy Tan (4)

1.2Brief introdution about The Joy Luck Club (4)

1.3 Introduction about about the thesis (5)

Chapter2 Conflict between Chinese &Amerian culture (5)

2.1The overview of conflict between Chinese &Amerian culture (6)

2.1.1Conflict between two family values (6)

2.1.2 Conflict between two languages (7)

2.1.3Conflict between two views of marriage (8)

Chapter3 Compatibility between Chinese &American culture (9)

3.1The mothers gradually accept the American culture (10)

3.2 The daughters understand their mothers much better than before (11)

3.3The rise of China promotes the reconcile of the Chinese and the American culture. (11)

Chapter 4 Conclusion (13)

Chapter5 References (13)

Chapter 1 Introduction

1.1Brief introduction about Amy Tan

Amy Tan (born February 19, 1952) is an American writer whose works explore mother-daughter relationships. Her most well-known work is The Joy Luck Club, which has been translated into 35 languages. In 1993, the book was adapted into a commercially successful film. Tan has written several other bestselling novels, including The Kitchen God's Wife, The Hundred Secret Senses, The Bonesetter's Daughter and Saving Fish from Drowning. She also wrote a collection of non-fiction essays entitled The Opposite of Fate: A Book of Musings. Her most recent novel Saving Fish from Drowning explores the tribulations experienced by a group of people who disappear while on an expedition in the jungles of Burma. In addition to these, Tan has written two children's books: The Moon Lady (1992) and Sagwa, the Chinese Siamese Cat (1994), which was turned into an animated series which aired on PBS. She also appeared on PBS in a short spot encouraging children to write. Tan is also in a band with several other well-known writers, the Rock Bottom Remainders.William Wei has said: “she is one of the famous women writers who has broken through the Asian American ethnic literature.”(1993,P.88.)

1.2Brief introdution about The Joy Luck Club

The Joy Luck Club is a well-known American-Chinese writer Amy Tan's representative works. Alice Walker has said that: “the novel is honest,moving,and beautiful courageous.Amy Tan shows us China,Chinese-American women and their families,and the mysrery of the mother-daughter bond in ways that we have not experienced before.”(1989,P1.)In the novel,she presented to the reader four Chinese immigrant mothers and their daughters .Although living in America,the immigrant mothers cling to Chinese traditional culture.They organize the Joy Luck Club regularly,a weekly meeting of best Chinese friends. Four mothers with their own view of the world, their world view is based on their experiences of life in China. However,the girls from their mothers can not understand the Chinese culture because the are America-born. So there are conflicts that have been vividly described in this book.The novel is composed of four sections,each of which contains four separate narratives.In the first four stories of the book,the

mothers,speaking in turn,recall with astonishing clarity their relationships with their own mothers ,and they worry that their daughters’recollections of them will never possess the same intensity.In the second section,these daughters relate their recollections of their childhood relationships with their mothers;the great lucidity and force with which they tell their stories proves their mothers’fears at least partially unfounded.In the third group of stories,the four daughters narrate their adult dilemmas-troubles in marriage and with their careers.Although they believe that their mothers’antiquated ideas do not pertain to their own very American lifestyles,their search for solution inevitably brings them back to their relationships with the older generation.In the final group of stories,the mothers struggle to offer solutions and support to their daughters,in the process learning more about themselves.It reveals cultural conflicts between the East and the West as manifested by the conflicts between the two generations of Chinese Americans with the description of psychological estrangements and emotional conflicts between mothers and their daughters.American scholar Payant thinks “the novel is always stripping off the layers of the skin in order to touch the mothers and daughters’mutual bone”(1993,P71.)After a series of misunderstanding and conflicts,mothers and their daughters are in harmony with their efforts of love,communication and understanding,which also stands for the compatibility between Chinese and American cultures.It brings hope that we can reconcile the opposition in our lives between past and present,between generation and between cultures.

.1.3 Introduction about about the thesis

The thesis is the discussion about the mother-daughter collision and compatibility between Chinese and American culture,entirely sepertated by four major parts: Introduction, Conflict between Chinese &American culture, Compatibility between Chinese & American culture,and Conclusion.In addition,the paper argues the different living environment,different culture heritage as well as different value which are the main causes of mother-daughter conflict in the novel.More importantly,after a series of misunderstandings,the two generations are in harmony which means cultural compatibility between China and America.It brings hope that contradiction or oppositions in our lives between past and present,between generation and between culture can be possibly even well reconciled.

Chapter2 Conflict between Chinese &Amerian culture

2.1The overview of conflict between Chinese &Amerian culture

In China,the central value outlook of Chinese culture is collectivism.Individuals must regard collective as the most important and follow collective interest.According to the principles of collectivism,it is mother’s duty to educate children.And in Chinese culture,daughters are thought to be parts of their mothers and they must obey their mothers’arrangements,The immigrant mothers follow the culture,interfere in dayghters’affairs and even run things all by themselves without consulting daughters.In Chinese families,achieving success is not a person’s business,but an important duty to support a whole family.A person’s success is not the realization of his or her value,but a link of a family’s prosperity.However,American culture is founded on the ideals of freedom,democracy and equality.It emphasizes equal rights,free competition and self-achievement.As a result,the American central value outlook is individualism.In the novel ,Amy Ling once said: “ the relationship between the mothers and the daughters is painful,it is the open war of two well-matched strenghs.”(1990,P139.)Daughters are deeply influenced by individualism so they always try to be out of control of their mother in order to live freely in American ways.They dream of being real Americans,speaking American English,wearing American clothes and having American food.In their opinions,success is the result of one’s effort.It has little relationship with others.Owing to different value outlooks,when mothers want to control daughters or make expectations,daughters are against strongly.There are many kinds of contradictions and conflicts between the first American immigrants and their children,the conflicts between Chinese mother’s expectations and American daughters’right and the unavoidable conflicts between Chinese and American culture.

2.1.1Conflict between two family values

From the opinions of Francis, “In the chinese cultural tradition,family does not only stand for the parents’power of their children,but also means the mutual dependant relation between the mothers and the daughters.The genetic relation is the necessary connection with spirit and social life,in American culture,it emphasizes the awareness of self-realization and independence,stimulates freedom and individualiam,the parents in America pretend to cut off the association with their children.”(1987.P77andP225.)In China,under the deeply influence of Confucianism,chinese highly praise this kind of cuitufal system,which takes family ethic as its central element.The extremely strong family values develop into an aggregate type of behavior

pattern,The Joy Luck Club mothers has been strongly influenced by the idea of Chung Hsiao,loyalty to the emperor and filial piety to parents and by the Confucian doctrine of three obediences and four virtues.The three obediences were to be obedient one’s father when unmarried,to one’s husband when married and to one’s son when widowed.However, “America stimulates the freedom and individualiam,so their behavior pattern is discrete type.”(2004,P1.) Liu xiaohong once said: “.In America, a man’s natural right country,the daughters regard the patriarchal system as infringing act.”(1989,P40-45.)For example,Lindo believed that a mother and her daughter were inseparable and a daughter’s success also belonged to her mother.When Waverly practiced playing chess,Lindo liked to give her some suggestion.When Waverly won a competition,Lindo would show off in front of others,Waverly told her mother that she should shut up and should not show off since she did not know anything about chess.The conflict between mother and daughter became open when the latter angrily shouted at her mother in the street: “Why do you have to use me to show off?If you want to show off,why do not you learn to play chess?”(1989,P45.)The conflicts between the two family values ,to a certain extent ,reflect the different values between Chinese and American culture.From the novel,Yang jing once said: “the conflicts of Lindo and Waverly reflect the conflicts of the Chinese collectivism and the American individualism.”(1999,P106-108.)

2.1.2 Conflict between two languages

Communication barriers between the two generations, also come from the language.In the novel,Jingmei says: “My mother and I never really understood one another.We translated each other’s meaning and I seemed hear less than was said,while my mother heard more.”Duncan once said: “social organizations exsit and develop in the communication with symbolic significance signs and the symbolic significance signs are the approach for the cultural acquisition and the cultural diffusion.”(1991,P.176.)We believe that for the mothers,Chinese will always be their mother tongue as China will always be the home for their soul.They can always speak Chinese fluently at any time if they want.For the mothers, “Chinese is not only the tool to resist the culture rule, but also is a way to retain the important significance in American present world.”(1993,P.604.)So the Su insisted to continue The Joy Luck Club.Because it is a habitat of traditional Chinese culture in their heart.They get together regularly a weekly meeting their best Chinese friends,they can put on Chinese tradition clothes,play mahjong, taste Chinese traditional food and talk about their own stories in the past time and their hopes for their daughters with Chinese accent.They can feel spiritual comfort in an atmosphere of intense.They speak in their special language,half in broken English,half in their own Chinese dialect.At the same time,there are many kinds of difficulties in communication with the mothers and the daughters because of

lack of the language and culture base.This is not only the problem of genetation gap,but also is the cultural understanding deficiency,which is made by the language system and the psychological expectations.For example,when Lindo Jong speak to Waverly with great pride about Taiyuan,the capital city of Shanxi,her hometown,but Waverly thinks her mother is talking about Taiwan, for the oversea Chinese mother,wherever she goes,she always considers herself as a descendant of the dragon or the scions of Huang Di and Yan Di.They live in Chinatown.Taiyuan is the place where the Chinese mother has been longing for all her life,She feels so sad when she hears her daughter refers it as Taiwan.Chinese people’s loyalty to the motherland is deeply moted in the Chinese traditional mainstream.In traditional Chinese society,the family and the country share the same structure.A family is a minimized country and country is a maximized family.Family members or citizens should keep loyal to the head wherever she or he goes.This example perfectly shows the language has been a great gap between mother and daughter.With the years of growth these second-generation immigrants even completely forgot they are Chinese.They no longer use Chinese,instead of it,they use English to communicate with others.

2.1.3Conflict between two views of marriage

The value theory is the standard and vade mecum of people’s behaviors and attitudes and it determines the human activity in the specific environment.When we talk about marriage value in The Joy Luck Club,there are many conficts between the mothers and the daughters,the Chinese and American culture.In the chinese tradition, children’s matrimonial affair plays a very important role in daily life,parents hope that their children will lead a happy life,so the parents’interference for the children’s marriage is meritorious and understandable.Since the children fell in love with others,they have paid much attention them,although the children have got married and had their own family,the parents will still pay attention to their marriage life.However,in American individulism culture, falling in love with others,living together,getting married,getting divorce are all personal freedom and authorities,nobody can not interfere with them.In The Joy Luck Club,the mothers show much solicitude in the daughters’ mate selection and marriage, which make the conflicts between the mothers and daughters.For example, when Lindo finds her daughter Waverly’s first boyfriend is an irresponsible American man,she takes flinty measures to break up them, even uses the shoes to attack them.For me ,Lindo is a kind mother,the way she express love to her daughter is simply,direct ,responsible,however,her daughter does not understand her very well.The daughter who is under much influence of American culture does not get advice from her mother,however,she runs away with her boyfriend in order to resist her mother’s interference.When Waverly’s first marriage comes to

nothing,she even adds the reason of failure to her mother,she thinks that her mother has cursed her marriage.However,faced with the setback of Waverly’s marriage,the mother does not look on it indifferently,she uses her life experience to enlighten her daughter in order to get her out of the dilemma.In the novel,Rose is an obedient girl and has a sweet temper,she gets married with an American man.Because the chinese value theory has exerted a subtle influence on her character,after the marriage, Rose has docile humility and never puts forward her opinions,in this way ,she thinks it is the love for her husband.However,in American value theory,as the independence of the individual,nobody will give up his right easily,so will the marriage.The American have a strong realization of right and equality,so in the eye of the husband,Rose is a wife,who loses her own judgement towards life and marriage,so the husband does not want to share happiness and woe with Rose,even he puts forward the divorce.When Rose is in the agony,her mother finds many active ways to give advice to her daughter behind the scenes and encourages Rose to speak out her opinions bravely.When Rose gets advice from her mother and tells her thoughts to her husband,she gets the love from her husband again,to her husband’s surprise,he finds his wife is not an obsequious woman.In this case,the daughter feel her mother’s love,and also finds that the mother understangs her much better than others, which is good for her own marriage.

Chapter3 Compatibility between Chinese

&American culture

In the book, conlicts between mothers and daughters,between Chinese and American culture are everywhere.At first,mothers and daughter do not know how to handle the problems.No efficient mesures are taken.Even one daughter says,“I wish I am not your daughter.”to express her dissatisfaction.Samovar once said: “people attract and approach each other because of similarity,however,the custom and the habit make them insulate each other.”(1991,P2.)American mothers’embrace and kiss,which are admired by others ,when compared with the chinese mother s’severe love,although the way to express love is different,but the essence of love is the same.American parents’democracy has brought up the children’s the independence and

self-reliance,at the same time,the chinese parents’despotism has taught the children the invisible power and the indomitable courage,they are different approaches but get equally satisfactory results.Amy Tan’s description and analysis of cultural difference reflect a typical kind of humanism:“in the different colours of clothes and shins,we are more or less the same.”(1993,P61.)Although the people of different backgrounds have differences in the behaviour, mode of thinking,and the values,they are all eager for the commucations with others.The novel The Joy Luck Club admits the difference and does not avoid the conflicts,from the view of the book,it insists that as long as people have great intentions and seek common ground while reserving differences,the people of different cultural backgrounds will get closed.Zhang ruihua once said: “the compatilibility of the mothers and the daughters mean the compatilibility between the Chinese and the American culture.”(2001,P3.)In the book,there are many things reflecting the compatibility between Chinese &American culture.

3.1The mothers gradually accept the American culture

When we talk about the mothers in the book,there are many changes about them.The mothers take off the chinese robe and put on the American pants and skirts,also,they get used to the every weekend’s religious activities in America and speak the shoddy English,which is laughed at by their daughters.There are many concrete examples,which can show the mothers’ accepting the American culture.When Anmei’s son Subin drowns in the sea unfortunately,first,the God comes to her mind,rather than the chinese bodhisattva.When it comes to Lindo,she changes her attitude towards her daughter’s huaband.At first,she even takes off her shoes angrily to attack her dauguter and the daughter’s huaband because of their elopement,but after a series of misunderstanding and conflicts,the mother accepts her daughter’s husband and teaches the American man how to eat the crab lovingly.Although the daughter’s husband has done some behaviors which are against the Chinese culture,such like,when he comes to his wife’s mother’s home,he only takes a bottle of grape wine;when he uses the chopsticks to have a meal,he lets the soup drip on his skirt;when her wife’s mother praises him with some implicative words ,however,he misunderstands her meanings;when he says good bye to the wife’s mother,he addresses her without a honorific title.To her daughter’s surprise,the mother casts aside the difference between the East and the West and accepts the American man,in fact,it means that people in this novel show lenient and respect to the difference between chinese and American culture.

3.2 The daughters understand their mothers much better than before

With the passing years,the daughters who has acknowledged the American culture in their hearts experience the setback of the enterprise,the marriage,and the family,at last ,they realize the edge position in the USA much better than before,so they become more mature in their daily life.At the same time,they feel the influence of the Chinese cultule and they realize that the mothers’ harsh criticism is only a kind of self-defence,so the relationship with the mothers and the daughters mitigate because of the daughters’self-understanding.There are many examples which can prove this phenomeon.For example,when waverly finds that “her mother uses the pan as the helmet and armour and uses the needle as the sword in order to get the daughter’s invite.”From the sentence,we can find the mother’s confrontation and stubborn,in fact ,the mother’s stubborn wants to approach the daughter,after the daughter understands the mother’s meaning,she realize that the mother wants to tell the daughter all her wishes in standard English.Another example is about Waverly’s honeymoon,when the daughter and the mother knows each other well,the daughter wants her mother to go with them together.She thinks that it is a great idea,which means the sublime of the cultural tolerance and cultural fusion.When it comes to Jing-mei Woo,after her mother’s death,she feels much loss and guilty conscience,so she takes the place of her mother and goes to the mahjong table.Also,she decides to go to China to call on her twin sisters.In China,she gets more information about her mother and her name’s beautiful meaning.Understanging her mother well means the melt of the culture of the diaphragm.When Jing-mei watches and embraces her twin sisters,she realizes her Chinese identity,she thinks the Chinese culture is her family,her blood,her all life,at this time,the East culture and the West culture mingle together very well.

3.3The rise of China promotes the reconcile of the Chinese and the American culture.

As a famous saying goes, “a weak nation has no diplomacy.”In the same way,faced with the cultureof the very developed country,the poor country will lose the right of speech.The only way to get the other developed countries’ respect and attention is the national prosperity,only in this can clear up the cultural hegemony and get the cultural integration.From the novel The Joy

Luck Club,we can find many example.First,when it comes to the mothers’immigrant,in the 1940s,China is in the wars,the war is going on with all its stresses and strains,so the country is poor and weak.After the founding of new China,althouth the economic develops a little,the country experiences the Great Proletarian Cultural Revolution.In the book,when An-mei Hsu scrapes up 2000 dollars and takes plenty of American clothes to China in order to call on her little brother.To her surprise,there are many relatives coming to meet her,such as,her little brother,her brother’s wife’s younger brothers and sisters from different parents,her distant cousin,her distant cousin’s husband,her distant cousin husband’s uncle and so on.At last,An-mei wipes out all her money and the relatives carve up her clothes,even her distant cousin husband’s uncle lends 500 dollars from her in order to buy a motorbike,after he gets the money, he disappears at once.An-mei’s original idea is want to give the 2000 dollars to her little to make him lead a rich life,however,to her disappoint,she goes back to the USA without taking anything except her tired body.In the 1980s,China government tries best to govern the country,in the development of economic comes out the market economy,which takes the place of the planned economy.China reforms and opens to the outside world,so the comprehensive national strength of China becomes stronger and stronger,at the same time,the Chinese cultule gets more respect from other developed countries in the west world.In the novel,we can find many examples which can prove this idea.When Lindo comes to China to visit her family or goes to visit her relatives,she finds that many families have colour television sets,her relatives does not need any gift from her.The phenomenon is very different from An-mei.The another example is about Jing-mei Woo,when she comes to Guangzhou, she sees many kinds of big buildings,which are the same as the great architectures in the USA.When she goes into the reserved hotel, the grand hotel gives her the wrong impression that she makes a mistake in finding the hotel.In her mind,she does not think it is China, a country which believes in the communism.At the same time,she get some information from her mother that the sons have carried on the business in combination with the other people successfully.From this example,Jing-mei realizes that many people in China can enrich their family in their own ways.Faced with the great development of China,Lindo feels proud of China and Jing-mei Woo gets much surprise from the east country.For the Chinese Americans,with the development of China,this kind of people who represent the Chinese culture get more repect and understanding,so we can conclude that the cultural fusion of the Chinese culture and the American culture will have a bright future.

Chapter 4 Conclusion

Although America has a history of a little more than 200 years,but as the most developed country in the world,it specific culture has undoubtedly powerful effects.To a large extend,American culture stands for western culture.In Americans’eyes,since Chinese culture has a history of five thousands years it is the quintessence of eastern culture and full of charm.According to description of the most common relationship---the relationship between mothers and their daughters,The Joy Luck Club combines the two different charming cultures,describes the conflicts between them and shows that cultural compatibility can be achieved by love,communication and understangding. The Joy Luck Club,through the distinctive perspective of Chinese people,portrayed relationship between mothers and daughters so delicately and vividly that Amy become a new star in American literary circles.Writing novels,Amy rarely described the direct conflict between characters.Instead of direct conflict,Amy concerned much about the social relations,concluding family relations,sexual relations,and mother-daughter relations.Apparently,Amy composed The Joy Luck Club base on these relationships. Wang yongmei once said: “The Joy Luck Club delievers the message that people should desalinate the cultural identity and eliminate the cultural identity of opposites.”(2004,P6)

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喜福会读后感

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喜福会 英文简介 读后感

2011—2012—2英语阅读（4）期中作业姓名田小星班级英语1103班学号 1101901307 得分 The Joy Luck Club The author of The Joy Luck Club is Amy Tan, who was born in Oakland, California, in 1952. Besides this book, she hasalso written other famous novels, such as The Kitchen God's Wife, The Hundred Secret Senses, The Bonesetter's Daughter and Saving Fish From Drowning. In response to the widely held opinion that she writes with a social aim—to portray the Chinese American experience. Through her writing, Tan approaches issues that are universally applicable to all groups of people. She explores themes of family and memory, as well as the conflicts of culture that arise in so many American communities. The Joy Luck Club contains sixteen interwoven stories about conflicts between Chinese immigrant mothers and their American—raised daughters.The novel consists of four sections,each section contains four separative narratives. In the first section, four mothers, Lindo, Ying ying, and An mei, recollect their relationship with their nature mothers clearly one by one. However, their daughters' recollection of them will never be so clear. In the second section, these daughters, Waverly, Jing mei,Lena, and Rose recollect their childhood relationship with their mothers respectively. They tell their childhood stories so clearly and touchingly that it can powerfully prove what their mothers worry about at least is partially unnecessary and unimportant. In the third section, the four daughters narrate their adult dilemmas—troubles in marriages and with their careers. Although they believe that their mothers' antiquated ideas do not have anything concerned about their own American lifestyles, but their search for solutions inevitably brings them back to their relationships with the older generation. In the final section, the mothers come up with some practical solutions and support their daughters, in the process learning more about themselves.

喜福会读后感

喜福会读后感 导读: 喜福会读后感（一） 一直以来很少有机会看电影。这次完整地看了一部荣获柏林电影节银熊奖的《喜福会》，让我深受感染，华裔导演与演员，也可算是中国式的好莱坞片吧。 影片讲述了四对母女的命运与生活，纯真的自我心理剖析让听了很了然。四个苦命的中国女人在国内历经磨难分别去美国，再跟美国人创造的第二次婚姻后又有了各自的女儿。恰好，四个女人也成了多年的朋友，各自情谊都很深，影片开始真正切入主体是母亲对各自女儿谈起早年的时光，悲惨的命运，吃人的礼教，薄薄的人情，不公正的婚姻，赤裸裸的封建压迫与惨昧的性，把整个近代中国社会刻画得淋漓尽致。总之，个个故事都是悲喜交加，从母亲的母亲再到婆家的家史，从逃沦的岁月到安逸的晚年，从中国的重庆到美国的旧金山，画面不停地在两地之间转换，故事也一个比一个更惨，更出人意料，把整个人的心都和剧中人物连接了起来，这她们担心，为她们惋惜，为中国的过去悲哀，也为人性感到惨淡，剧中的光线也跟周围环境谐调的很好，明就亮的出奇，像一面镜子，暗时凄凉可怕，病态的中国也许就是这样吧！ 这四个母亲都是在中国出生成长的，在中国遭到不平等待遇，有的是公婆家的劣待，有的是娘家的排斥，有的是亲丈夫的暴力对待，在这样一个大黑锅下容易使人的性格变质，温柔的也会变为严酷的，

渐渐地，她们觉得自己不适合这个时代，这个环境，于是走上了逃亡与流浪之路，从中国一直漂到美国，再也不回中国，把自己的后半辈寄托在他乡，把自己的生命延续到了异乡。她们不能让自己的后代重蹈自己的前辙，于是当她们的女儿长大成人时，母亲对女儿的婚姻格外观注，生怕女儿会走错。母亲毕竟走过坎坷比女儿多，于是第二段故事就出来了。女儿的不幸与母亲的担忧构成了一网他乡的浪清，更是对资本主义社会加以揭露，人情与金钱，善恶与美丑，挚热与冷漠，从面构勒出现代社会的不幸，现代人之间的沟壑，这种不幸的生活遭遇达到一定程度就会爆发的资本主义社会的弊端，终究会穿过极限，整个影片也加以预示，最后在一片亲人的眼泪中结束了影片。 这是一部生活性戏剧，揭露性十分强烈的影片。 喜福会读后感（二） 飞鸿早期的片子看得不多，多半都是从这里的视频中看个片段。出於各种原因，对大多数角色印象不深。今天看了喜福会，终於看到了飞鸿表演里程上的闪光点。 盈盈这个角色本身并不讨喜，却有着很多挖掘和发挥的空间。飞鸿也仅仅出演了她的青年时代，在我看到的飞鸿为数不多的片段中（也许已是她所有的出场次数了），她将盈盈几个不同阶段的心态表现得淋漓尽致：少女情怀的朦胧和克制，（顺便提一下，她的少女装扮十分清丽，惊艳！）遭遇激情时的幸福与盲目，接受婚姻不幸后更为复杂的心理：克忍，反抗，直至麻木和绝望。在对白不多的情况下，飞鸿用她的眼神，表情和肢体语言将这一系列的变化刻划得丝丝入

喜福会英文观后感

My Reflection of The Joy Luck Club I wonder that when seeing the name The Joy Luck Club most people would treat it as a story filled with happiness and love. In fact, besides love, it is also about the cultural conflicts between four daughters and their mothers. The film is based on the best seller by Amy Tan of the same name. It shows us the lives of four Chinese women who were immigrants to America during the 1950s. As a mother, each of them has a lot of problems with their daughter because of cultural conflicts. The misunderstanding of love between the mothers and their American-raised daughters, the clash between the generations and cultures, and the struggle for the women to fight for equity touch every audience’s heart. Though I was also attracted by something with extensiveness——I want to talk about some points about the language. I had learnt that what are high context communication and low context communication and what is different between them. The former is one in which most of the information is internalized in a person, while very little in the coded, explicit, transmitted part of the message——we must guess what the real meaning of the words is; while the other is the opposite. Chinese just the stands for the former and English is the representative of the latter. An interesting scene in the movie just shows us this. When Waverly’s boyfriend Richie had a dinner with Waverly’s big Chinese family for the first time, he made some stupid mistakes. He brought his typical American habit when the they were eating and he couldn’t understand what Lindo( Waverly’s mother) mean when she said “ He has an a ppetite”. When Lindo brought a dish which she was very proud of, as a Chinese, she still said some formulae that the dish was not salty enough and it was too bad to eat; that suggested that everyone around the table should speak highly of her dish after their first degustation; while Richie didn’t understand that Chinese all like to be modest and he criticized Lindo’s cooking, just saying what he thought in his mind directly. What Richie did led to a very embarrassing atmosphere in the dinner and made Lindo very disappointed and

关于《喜福会》中TWO KINDS 英文读后感

The first time I saw this title of film, I felt it must be a enjoyable film which filled with love, luck, happiness, but out of my expectation, in this film I saw so much unpleasant things such as conflicts, diseases, violence, sorrow, hardship and disappoint. I was feeling very pity for thiese charactors in this film because living that society women were not equar to men, this deem to happen many unforturnate things to women and make women’s lives tragedy. Associate with the modern society, almost every woman to make their daughter succeed. They always make their daughter do as their advices and ignore their daughters’ feeling.Each daughter unwilling to obey. Once a time, my mother told me to learn to how to acting before audience, I was so afried that I ususlly went out to play with my classmates instead of attending the class which make my mother lose her temper. She said angrilyYou make me so disappoint that from now on you can do whatever you like. Hearing these words I was rather happy at that time,but several years later I am feeling regret espeacially now, because I realize that everyting my mother did is making the preparetion for my future life. Now I just want to say sorry to my mother.